Tag Archives: gay marriage

Proposition 8 Finally Ruled Unconstitutional

I can’t get married nor do I want to but this is still a win for our communities (regardless of what I think about the institution of civil marriage).

The most important bit from the 138 page ruling:

Proposition 8 fails to advance any rational basis in singling out gay men and lesbians for denial of a marriage license. Indeed, the evidence shows Proposition 8 does nothing more than enshrine in the California Constitution the notion that opposite sex couples are superior to same-sex couples. Because California has no interest in discriminating against gay men and lesbians, and because Proposition 8 prevents California from fulfilling its constitutional obligation to provide marriages on an equal basis, the court concludes that Proposition 8 is unconstitutional.

Just a note, the court order has been stayed so no one can get married. This decision is likely to be appealed all the way to the United States Supreme Court. So while the fight is long from over, we’ve won the battle this time around.

More later. Time to party tonight!

Leave a Comment

Filed under LGBTQ

Repeal Prop 8 in 2010

Most of us know about the power struggle between ‘gay rights’ groups in California and the lengthy debate over campaigning to repeal Prop 8 in 2010.

The ironically-named Courage Campaign officially announced that it would back no such effort due to shrinking support in the polls and lack of financial backing.

Seriously, don’t underestimate the power of small, grassroots organizations fighting for marriage equality. All the money and support poured into Maine did not materialize into anything substantial. What makes people think that big institutional support and funding is all that it takes?

No matter how much I detest the institution of marriage, Proposition 8 is a violation of equal protection and a persistent scar on the California Constitution.

I support Sign for Equality and its efforts to gain signatures to put a proposition to Repeal Prop 8 back on the ballot.

The initiative must gather 1 million signatures by April 5, 2010 to qualify.

Once it gets on the ballot, what are the gay rights groups in California going to do? Lose face again by throwing up hands in protest and defeat? I don’t think so.

Leave a Comment

Filed under LGBTQ

Obama – Big fat NOPE


Fantastic cover shot from The Advocate referring to how Obama has let down queers.  He certainly owes the LGBT community much more than he has delivered thus far. But he is telling us to ‘wait’ a little bit longer. Sorry, that just is not acceptable. And with the Human Rights Campaign telling us to cut him some slack till 2017, we realize what ‘waiting a little longer’ means.

Leave a Comment

Filed under LGBTQ

Maine: Daily Kos Polls Show Yes on 1 Ahead

Here is the polling question and results:

As you may know there will be one question on the ballot this November in Maine addressing the issue of same-sex unions. In part it will read “Do you want to reject the new law that lets same-sex couples marry?” A yes vote takes away the right of same-sex couples to marry. A no vote keeps the right of same-sex couples to marry. If the election were held today would you vote YES or NO on this question?


It’s within the margin of error but it doesn’t look good for LGBT Mainers and the fight for marriage equality.

But releasing these polls gives us more ammunition to shift all eyes and operations to Maine. I expect more donations to flood into the No on 1 coffers as people realize the gravity of the situation.

In the meanwhile, No on 1 and Travel for Change are escalating the out-of-state volunteer recruitment efforts by releasing a new “Volunteer Vacation” video and simultaneously rolling out additional online travel resources.  Here is the link to the video if you haven’t seen it yet.

Continue reading

Leave a Comment

Filed under LGBTQ

Drive for Equality

Given all the travel I have done in the past few months, I decided to stay put for a while and actually contribute to something else for a change. So I have taken a short-term post as New Media Director for TravelforChange, to help organize volunteers from out of state for the Maine Equality battle. And I am excited about getting this new project on the ground as an over-educated, under-employed young person.

The No on 1 battle is being waged in Maine. But since LGBT rights is a nation-wide issue and we don’t want another California, it seems prudent to enable as many volunteers to get involved as possible. Maine needs organizing right now, not necessarily the state of California where the proposition to overturn the gay marriage ban is hanging in limbo due to infighting between several groups.

Now Dan Savage didn’t like this idea last year but there’s really nothing wrong with shipping out excited and enthusiastic volunteers to other states. We aren’t breaking any campaign finance laws especially through the innovative way in which we use airline miles. Some movements can probably learn from it and invest their millions in funding more wisely.

I’ll let you know how it pans out in November and may ask for your help on this project. In the meantime, there’s a lot of backend and ground-work to be done.


I am hereby pledging to defeat Prop 1. Vote No on 1.

Leave a Comment

Filed under LGBTQ

I am leaving

Setting a date right now for getting out of here. Should I sign a voluntary departure or do without it?

Two years ago, I qualified for Canada and was set to leave. But then I listened to some lawyers and more tear-jerking from my useless family. The logical reasoning for staying here no longer exists.

If I have to await ‘in-line’ 8-10 more years (Re: Matter of Wang), I might as well do so somewhere where I can move forward in life.

I don’t care about the vile threats from my family. I have had enough of this imprisonment.

I know it might seem dumb for someone covered under the LIFE Act to self-deport, but this someone is a very educated person. How long am I expected to put my life on hold for the convenience of other people? And of course, no one would sponsor me for an EB-2 and legalize my status regardless of how (over)qualified I am; they will make me work without pay or put me on meager stipends.

I can’t get married to adjust my status. Don’t remind me.

These idiots in the USA can file for ‘hardship-waivers’ later if they want. I really doubt I would want to come back here.

Yes, I would probably be put in jail in Fiji. I might even be beaten and killed. But those are just risks I need to take. Freedom comes at a cost. I’ll rather be killed while I am free than die in this prison every day.

Leave a Comment

Filed under Immigration

The Sims 3 has Gay Marriage! Why I Care

And no one in the gameplay does.

Lyle Masaki at AfterElton tested the new version of The Sims to see if gays and lesbians could get married. He reports: “…after a week of game time, I was able to get a male couple to plan a wedding party and tie the knot.”

We all know how much I really don’t care about gay marriage even though I blog about it often enough.

But The Sims series holds a very special place in my heart. The game, by Will Wright (Maxis), was released 1-2 years after we moved to the United States. My greatest struggle wasn’t just with the culture clash, but with confronting and coming to terms with my sexuality.

The game was a great expression of self-empowerment. It allowed us to pick our appearances right down to an earring, made us the sole decision-makers on how to run our lives. And two women and two men could actually live and sleep together, even though they couldn’t have children together. And the men could actually have babies (if abducted by aliens), but I digress. It was simply a great step forward in gender non-conformity and to give teenagers like me an opportunity to live the lives we wanted.

9 years later, we are still not there. But it was The Sims that went quite a long way in reinforcing that I was normal and loving someone of the same gender was not the big sin that everyone else made it out to be. And I am sure the bold move in The Sims 3 would reinforce this message to a younger generation.

Next two generations, if we survive global warming, I expect to hear – “Mom, this is so crazy. Once upon a time, gays couldn’t marry. WTF?!


Filed under LGBTQ